you can never go home again

[~*TiGeRs f@N*~]

the old saying is true... :sigh: I hate it here

[rockin500]

just over 24 hours hon!

[~*TiGeRs f@N*~]

I know Ray, but after that I still have to come back...

[Jade Sabre]

what's wrong jen? :umm

[rockin500]

sorry to hear that jen. i understand what you mean though by having trouble being at home after being away so long.

just concentrate on the good things, and not focus on the bad. T- 27 hours til we meet! and then another 12 after that for james! :clap2:

think positive thoughts! :)

[~*TiGeRs f@N*~]

Originally posted by Jade Sabre
what's wrong jen? :umm

The same old crap... like Ray said, I was away for so long, that I almost forgot how much I hate it here. I forgot that my sister is perfect and that nothing I do is ever right, I forgot how much I get yelled at, I forgot how much my parents and I really don't like each other.

The good thing about Sarnia is that it was a fresh start, no one knew my history and I was free to just be me... at home, I have to be the same old Jen that I have always been... no one understands that I have changed.

I am going to get through this summer and then my last year of school and then I am outta here. A friend of mine is moving to Texas, I think I am gonna go with him.

[Jade Sabre]

think positive thoughs and you'll get through the summer :)

[ehawk24]

I know I'm new here, but I understand the home thing Jen. I've been doing it for four years, and now that I am finishing college I was hoping to move on. Sadly, my finances wont allow me that; I am stuck there for the summer.

I will say that there is always an end to the tunnel. I know mine was long, but I swear I can see it by now.

Hang in there, summers go by pretty quickly.

EH

[Obri]

Originally posted by ~*TiGeRs f@N*~
The same old crap... like Ray said, I was away for so long, that I almost forgot how much I hate it here. I forgot that my sister is perfect and that nothing I do is ever right, I forgot how much I get yelled at, I forgot how much my parents and I really don't like each other.

The good thing about Sarnia is that it was a fresh start, no one knew my history and I was free to just be me... at home, I have to be the same old Jen that I have always been... no one understands that I have changed.

I am going to get through this summer and then my last year of school and then I am outta here. A friend of mine is moving to Texas, I think I am gonna go with him.

This couldn't be more familiar to me. I lived away from home for a while(okay, it was only a couple of months, but still), and felt so liberated. Like you said Jen, a fresh start. Then I came home, and remembered what it was really like. I know how you feel. Truth be told, I have spent most of my free time recently either just being out of the house for any reason I can think of, or sitiing in my room for hours on end, where I can't get annoyed by my Mum or my little brother, or I don't have to fall out with my Dad. I'll be moving out around September or so, so i'm counting down the weeks. But i've always found ways to keep myself in check when I think i'm gonna go nuts. So Jen, my advice to you is, while you're at home, just spend as much time as possible doing things that put you at ease, or that you just enjoy doing. I know it sounds fairly obvious, but what the hell, it worked for me. I just try and make sure I never have nothing to do, so that i'm not moping around all day thinking, "I can't wait to get out of here." But then again, i'm sure such thoughts will be at the back of your mind in the near future what with your leg of the Addicts Roadshow fast approaching.:D

Just hang in there.:)

[PopTop]

:cool: Sorry kids, but I must admit chuckling a wee bit reading some of your "troubles at home" ... Imagine youngsters in their late teens, early 20s have been having the same conversation for years now.

Only bit of advice I can give you all is this: It really is amazing how much wiser parents can seem to become when you're in that approximate 18-25 years old range ... I mean, each of you is going to wake up someday when you're about 23-24-25 or so and think, Mom and dad aren't as stupid as I thought.

Yeah Jen, it's the same old thing at home right now ... Wanna' know why? ... Because it's your parents' home and little about them is ever going to change ... Yet you are changing right now, growing up, figuring out just who in the Sam Hill you are, where the heck you wanna' go and just when & how you want to arrive.

Your parents are always going to bug you, something about them will make you roll your eyes, shrug your shoulders, mutter to yourself or let out exasperated sighs ... About a million things you do will make your parents have a similar reaction ... Get used to it and figure out a way to make it the most enjoyable time you can, 'cause one of these days you're going to be missing your mom or your dad, I guarantee it, and you're going to feel bad for any time you ever cut short with them.

I think it was Ernie Banks who said something like, "Finding happiness has nuthin' to do with where you are or where you're goin'." ... Might've been a Hallmark card, not really sure where I picked that one up. :freak:

[ehawk24]

yep, Pop is right. I am currently in his 18-25 range thinking that exact same way. It tends to hit you when you really do not have the chance to go home again. Kinda odd in a way really.

EH

[Nanner]

Ah, Willie. You said what I was thinking..... :D ...... especially the part about young people having this conversation for years. In fact, I remember going through the same thing.

And what also is true is this part:

'cause one of these days you're going to be missing your mom or your dad, I guarantee it, and you're going to feel bad for any time you ever cut short with them.

Summer's short..... try to hang onto the changes you've gone through as you've become your own person..... keep busy.

And Willie's a very wise old guy. :thumbsup: :D

[rockin500]

hey pt, i already realized that by 21 that my parents werent rubes.

i changed a lot between 18 and 20 and during those years it was darned near impossible coming home for the summer and stuff. but after some mistakes on my part near my 21st birthday, we came a little closer. I continued changing (and still am to a degree) but not as radically as before. Now its not bad when i come home to visit them on the weekends cuz we do stuff. Its like, its good to visit, but we all know its not good to stay long time. I get along good with my parents now, much better than i did in high school and early college.

but its not easy to be in jen's shoes after 8 months of college and being away to come back to the nest. never is, really.

[Baseball Guru]

Originally posted by Nanner


And Willie's a very wise old guy. :thumbsup: :D

Key word old:laughing
Ahhh how slick of Nanner to put in old and think no one would notice;)

Actually great post by the old man;)
I see myself thinking about the day my son wont want to spend time with me....He is only 4 now (or will be on the 13th) but I dread the day that he wont come home and kiss and hug me anymore and tell me he loves me.....Truely the greatest feeling I have ever have and I feel it daily when he comes home from daycare....You just hate to see them grow up.....
I know parents can be a hard-a$$ on you but thats what they do...Cherish your time with them even it seems like a pain and hassle to you now as life goes way to fast and before you know it, one day they are gone.....
Just try to understand them more and cherish your time is all I'm saying...They really do have your best interest at heart.....:)
You'll understand someday just as I do now....

[Baseball Guru]

Originally posted by rockin500

but its not easy to be in jen's shoes after 8 months of college and being away to come back to the nest. never is, really.

Well said Ray.....I felt that way after being out on my own and I had to live with my parents again for 3 months while I closed on my house....It was a pain in the butt.....You are used to your way and you feel independent....Under their roof, its their rules.....

But again, just try to hang in there Jen....They do love you:)

[Nanner]

Originally posted by Baseball Guru
Key word old:laughing
Ahhh how slick of Nanner to put in old and think no one would notice;)



Oh. You noticed. :Peep:


:D

Also, true words about parenting from you, as well... a wise young guy. :D

[Baseball Guru]

Originally posted by Nanner
a wise young guy. :D

Have I told you lately how much I love you:lust:

[Nanner]

Originally posted by Baseball Guru
Have I told you lately how much I love you:lust:

:D

:luvkiss:

You can just say it over and over again on Wednesday.


:D

[Baseball Guru]

I definitely will have to remember that:love:




Note to self: Tell nanner I love her numerous times on Wed, May 7th :idea:

[Nanner]

Originally posted by Baseball Guru
I definitely will have to remember that:love:




Note to self: Tell nanner I love her numerous times on Wed, May 7th :idea:

:laughing



There ya go. :thumbsup: